Item descriptionYour Past Is Your Present: Relationship Edition is a focused two-hour live virtual workshop with Lisane Basquiat, held on Zoom on June 10, 2026 at 4:30 PM PT / 7:30 PM ET. It is built to help participants identify and map one recurring relational pattern shaping their closest relationships, before that pattern continues shaping communication, conflict, and important life decisions. The session is not therapy and not a debate. It is structured pattern mapping. Investment is $109. Group size is limited to 30 participants.

Your Past Is Your Present: Relationship Edition is a focused two-hour live virtual workshop with Lisane Basquiat, held on Zoom on June 10, 2026 at 4:30 PM PT / 7:30 PM ET.

The session is built to help participants identify and map one recurring relational pattern shaping their closest relationships, before that pattern continues shaping communication, conflict, and important life decisions.

The session is not therapy and not a debate. It is structured pattern mapping. Investment is $109.

Group size is limited to 30 participants.

The session runs for two hours on Zoom. Lisane teaches the framework, walks the group through the pattern-mapping process, and facilitates a structured personal reflection privately. There is no group discussion required, no role-play, no breakouts where you have to explain yourself to strangers. Cameras can stay on or off. Your reflection is yours. The structure is designed so the work lands without putting anyone on the spot.

Lisane Basquiat is a Board-Certified Master Practitioner and Teacher of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a Certified Professional Coach, corporate trainer, and the founder of Shaping Freedom.

Lisane has 20+ years of experience guiding individuals, families, leaders, and organizations through inherited patterns, relational dynamics, and meaningful change.

Lisane has been featured in NPR, Essence, Rolling Stone, ABC News, CBS, Forbes, and the New York Times.

This session is awareness work, not clinical work. It does not diagnose, treat, or process trauma.

It is structured pattern mapping, designed to help you see one specific relational pattern and the emotional rule driving it. Many participants attend in addition to therapy.

Some attend on their own, looking for a framework to understand what is happening before they decide their next step.

No. You will not be put on the spot or asked to disclose anything you are not comfortable sharing. This is a facilitated group session.

You can engage as much or as little as you choose. Many participants find that the pattern descriptions are specific enough that they do not need to share their own story to recognize themselves in the work.

Yes, you can attend alone. The work is yours to do in your own reflection, and you do not need the other person to be there for the work to land.

When one person sees the pattern clearly, the way they enter the next conversation changes, and the relationship has different inputs.

You can still do this work alone, and it still changes the relationship. When one person sees the pattern clearly, the way they enter the next conversation changes. The reactivity drops. The interpretation softens. The relationship has different inputs.

You do not need their participation to see what is yours, what is theirs, and what was inherited by both of you.

Recurring arguments rarely come from the conversation in front of you. They come from older patterns running underneath the relationship. Unresolved emotional history, inherited meanings, familiar fears, and protective strategies that were in place long before this relationship began.

When two people interact, their patterns meet, and the pattern starts driving the relationship. The same fight shows up in different words, with different people, in different settings, with strikingly similar outcomes. Seeing the pattern is the first step in changing it.

Because the pattern that shapes who you choose, how you communicate, and what you tolerate was likely formed long before any of those relationships started. Old wounds, emotional baggage, communication habits, protective responses, and survival strategies travel with you from one relationship to the next.

Until the pattern is named, it keeps selecting the same kind of dynamic, even when the people involved are different.

A relationship pattern is a repeated way of interpreting, reacting to, and engaging with the people closest to you. It includes how you respond to conflict, how you handle disappointment, how you express needs, and what you assume about the other person's intent.

Patterns are typically inherited (formed in childhood or family of origin), reinforced over time, and operate below conscious awareness. They show up across romantic, family, friendship, and professional relationships. Once you can see one, you can change how it runs.

Because patterns are inherited the same way language and belief systems are inherited. They get passed down through what was modeled, what was rewarded, what was punished, and what was never named. A grandparent's emotional rule becomes a parent's parenting style, which becomes the child's relationship default.

Without intentional pattern recognition, the same dynamic continues to show up in the next generation, often with different details but the same underlying structure. Naming the pattern is what interrupts the inheritance.

People pull away for reasons they often cannot fully name in the moment. The instinct to create distance during difficult moments is one of the most common protective patterns, and recent research found that 73% of Americans default to distancing themselves from a friend or loved one rather than communicating to resolve issues.

Underneath the distancing is usually an inherited rule about what conflict means, what closeness costs, and what happens when someone gets too close. Seeing that rule is what allows a different choice to be possible.

Shutting down is a protective response, not a personal rejection. When a difficult moment activates an old emotional rule (like closeness leads to harm or speaking up leads to punishment), the body and brain respond by going still or going inward, often before the person consciously chooses to.

The other person in the conversation usually experiences it as withdrawal or stonewalling, but for the person shutting down, it is the pattern protecting them from something they learned long ago to fear. Understanding the pattern is what makes the shutdown shift over time.

It means that your default ways of relating, communicating, and responding to conflict were shaped by the family system you grew up in, before you had the awareness to choose them. You inherited communication habits, emotional rules, conflict styles, and unspoken expectations from the people who raised you, who inherited theirs from the people who raised them.

Inherited patterns are not character flaws. They are learned strategies that worked at the time they were formed, and that may no longer serve the relationships you are in now.